Sunday, March 09, 2008

The four arrengements

Kelly linked to "The 4 agreements" book

Basically:

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don't Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don't Make Assumptions

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

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My own experience:

I´ve been doing #1 since I heard Cat Stevens song back then in the eighties (I was a teenager with the coolest aunt who was an English teacher and was forever giving me such things :) )

I have a BIG problem with #2

#3 is indeed life changing. I realized that a couple of years ago but fail to use it from time to time.

Doing my best in doing my best, lol!

2 comments:

The Dolphin Inn said...

Wow what wise words - thankyou for sharing Paula, I have a big problem with #2 also, I think these are great reminders for our children too, take care XXX

jakey said...

Hhmmm... very thought provoking. Like you I think I care too much what people think. Sometimes it's impossible not to take things personally tho! But I'll think on these words. Some of the happiest people I've known, have not cared a fig for the opinion of others lol!!

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