How do I use the Word? I use it as a compass. Quinn McDonald calls it a “verbal amulet”. When I´m about to say Yes or No to something, I check if it takes me towards or away to where I´m going. If it takes me closer to my North I say Yes, if it takes me farther from it, I say “No, thanks.”. Yes, I´m polite like that. If you have decided you are going to choose your Word of the Year for 2015 I´ll tell you what helped me along the years.
Tip #1: choose something that is REALLY yours, not “what everbody else is choosing”. Trust me, I´ve been there. The word doesn´t work if it doesn´t come from your own heart, personal story and wishes.
Tip #2: start with stating where you are and where you want to go. The “What brings me joy?” approach will remind you of things you might have lost sight of in the busyness of modern life.
Tip #3: choose positive action words and not avoidance ones. For example “eat healthier” works way better than “stop eating crap”.
Tip #4: talking avoid avoidance, avoid the “should”.
One year I found a word list at an influencer´s blog. You know the type, one of the cool girls around the web, who everyone follows. I had a look at the word list and mine wasn´t there. Why not? *dangerous path alarm* Was my word not good enough? *comparison and shame alert* Well, no. My word is MY word. My word of the year is NOT about what I “should” do, it´s about how I want to feel, what I want to do. Read tip #1 again.
Tip #5: “one word” is great for focus, have a main one but do not feel constrained by it. A few carefully selected ones will give you a strong structure to work on. Verbs are awesome because they point to action, phrases/sayings might work too. A personal favourite of mine for 2014 “Live long and prosper” #startreckfan
Let’s say you are one of the many people who would normally choose “Get Organized” as a resolution. You look around to see clutter and crap all over your life. You’re tired of the chaos. So, you think, “I need to get organized. That should be my Resolution this year.”But then you read this article. You decide to try it.You sit with your clutter. You spend a few days pondering words that will inspire you. You realize in an “Ah-Ha!” moment that you tend to cling to lots of things. You’re scared to let go. So you choose the word “Release” because it inspires you in a bigger way than “Get organized.”So, every time you approach your clutter you remind yourself of that word. “Release,” you say softly. You start to let the clutter go.Eventually, you realize that you’re still holding on to lots more than just physical clutter. You realize that you hold onto resentment at old relationships. “Release,” you remind yourself.You realize that holding on is affecting your diet and health. “Release” applies to some of the extra weight you’ve gained as well. Throughout the year, you can see clearly how much you hold on. “Release” is your touchstone. It grows you throughout the year. It becomes your guiding force, not your harsh standard.Your clutter became your teacher simply because you shifted your intent towards it. This wouldn’t have happened if you’d opted only to “Get Organized.”